Why do I have such a problem with this? I just don’t understand the big deal. I’ve heard it called “an abomination”, “sin”, “gross”, etc. But, I just don’t get it. Men in the old testament had multiple wives, and there’s not much said, biblically about the whole thing. Obviously, in the US, it’s illegal, and there are probably some pretty good reasons–it’s associated with child abuse, child marriage, forced marriage, etc. But there are abuses in any system. We can’t outlaw or call “abomination” just whatever we think is strange.
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t think I would “enjoy” the polygamist lifestyle, but I can see its benefits, and I’m not sure that villainizing its members, as our society does benefits us or them. Would I discuss this with my husband? Oh, no. Don’t want that “imagination train” getting started. But, the benefits of having help raising your children, knowing the woman who would be their mother if anything happened to me, being able to have companionship during the years of having little children which can be so lonely…. I get it.
The part I DO NOT get would be the…uh… bedroom portion. Scheduling my love life? No, thank you! Having my husband checking other women out as potential mates? Nope. And, I could never dress like a pilgrim.